As someone who has personally suffered serious social fear, I went to several phases of learning how to circumvent and overcome it, finally: the refusal, try to hide that shame and, Finally, learn to accept and the Labour.
One thing that helped me a lot was a famous reading about someone I admired and respected, admitted that they had social anxiety disorder, and even laugh! At that time, I felt my deep concern about shame for humanity, and it really surprised me that this person could then light-hearted about it. He spoke openly and unapologetically, as if it upon registration, he has diabetes, or some other very often.
I thought that for a long time, and he began to Make Me Feel much better about my situation. So, prudence on the first, I started to tell my close friends and relatives about my state of fear. Do not ask an apologetic way or ask someone feels that he unfortunately for me (because this is not always useful), but in a type of equipment: “Oh, by the way, did you know I have social anxiety disorder? ”
For most of my love and friends were very close understanding of the issue and not a great thing ever. The release, I felt was incredible, like a big stone was right, was repealed by my shoulders. I was reallly beginning to make progress.
I learned a lot about social anxiety, since, and probably the most important thing is: The social phobia is in large part by the feeling “overwhelmed”. The feeling is exceeded, what motivates men to limit their life to a bigger and stronger, until she herself live in a world very small effect. But it must not remain so. The understanding that your social anxiety is really the feeling overwhelmed can help you begin to gradually eliminate the changes.
An action plan simple …
1 Accept the situation and did not feel badly about it.
2 Begin to save themselves social situations very short periods. This is extremely important, because if you do this, you are limiting themselves, rather than limiting your anxiety. It is an extremely important difference, because the resumption of control over the situation and does not, as a victim.
3 Ask them are very close to you and could be this plan, and let you know they do and what you exactly why you do it. Do not forget that his unapologetic to explain to them. There is no excuse! Be very realistic about this.
4 As we have already mentioned, keep your social interactions very brief. If 5 minutes, that’s all you’re comfortable with, then 5 minutes and feel perfectly fine about that. Even if 1 minutes, that’s all you can do is very good. Remember that you are in taxation and borders - and not something outside you.
5 Slowly, beginning with the period of your stay in social interactions. But … To do this, very slowly. Do not drag! Even if you increase a few minutes per month, which is better than the laissez-overwhelms you in a situation.
